The Daily Blog experiment – home!

Well, I’m home after a few days in Queensland, visiting ThirtiesGirl and my three grandchildren. They are growing up without me, mostly. Every time I see them, they’re taller, and more independent. Grandma snuggles are going the way of the rotary phone. The two boys are happy to hang out near me, but aren’t too keen on cuddles any more. I am allowed to hold a foot or ankle and provide reiki in that way.

The girl, age 7.5 going on 23, is getting too cool for cuddles also. The first couple of days, she kept close to me, but as the days wore on, I became less and less interesting and it was suddenly fun to ignore me, give me vague answers, and not want cuddles at all.

This is the way of kids getting older. They don’t want, or can’t admit they do want Grandma cuddles and time. I know that. It’s still painful though. I have to let it happen. It’s normal. They’re not babies any more.

I do think it’s a shame though. Australians, on the whole, aren’t a super huggy bunch to begin with, and the push is always there, culturally, to be cool, to be tough, and not need affection, love, or loads of attention.

Maybe they see the time I take away from them to decompress my autistic self, and be alone as me not wanting to be around them. I do, but I can only do so much and endure so much noise before my nervous system starts sending out the ‘we’re getting super itchy, scratch until you draw blood’, ‘bite your nails’, and ‘bite the inside of your mouth’ signals. All stimming things that I do when I’m disregulated and stressed.

There’s no other solution than getting somewhere quiet, or at least away from their immediate needs.

Anyway, I’m home. Thanks to my Loops ear plugs I survived the flight and noise, and I’m now in bed, tucked up in soft pyjamas.

Tomorrow I’ll fully unpack and make sure everything is put away, and my toiletries bag is restocked ready for my next trip.

Oh, the quiet pleasure of being able to choose from my whole tea pantry instead of the 20 or so tea bags I took with me.

The Daily Blog experiment – Australia Zoo

Even though it wasn’t on my bucket list, I ticked off a bucket list item, yesterday. (And yes, I know it’s not a daily blog if it’s not daily, but I’m with my grandkids, so shut up). Australia Zoo.

ThirtiesGirl and her family have been Queenslanders for five years. While I secretly hope they will come to their senses and move back to Victoria so I can get weekly grandkids doses, I know they love the Sunshine Coast lifestyle. I have to say, it’s enticing. Warmer weather, slower life. I’d have moved already if it wasn’t for my parenting-caring-guardian responsibilities with ThirtiesPerson. Who DOES NOT WANT TO MOVE NORTH, THANKS.

Here are: PizzaBoy, myself, Miss J, Logie B, and Super C.

We hit the ground running with an early soccer game for Logie B, then off to the zoo.

Cheetahs, tigers, and lemurs, oh my!

I haven’t been to any zoo in years, so it was good to get amongst wild animals again, and see some up close that I’d never seen before. The lemurs are just as cute as you think they are. Those long fluffy tails – why can I not have one of my own. And if you’ve ever thought something similar, go read ‘The Conglomeroid Cocktail Party’ by Robert Silverberg. I don’t care how that story turns out, I still want a lemur tail of my own.

As you can see, it rained. Welcome to northern Australia and monsoon season. It was still warm, but the lemurs and many other animals were moving towards their heated shelters. And yet, we humans were waking around, buying up cheap plastic ponchos. (@Australia Zoo, how do you justify the plastic ponchos when you’re all about reducing plastic use in the world, especially one-use plastic?)

The giraffes, zebras, and rhinos live together in a large communal enclosure. This giraffe seemed to be going out of his way to bug this zebra, continually breathing on, nibbling, licking and nudging. I guess your older brother can be from another species, and you can bug him like the brat you are.

The croc show in the Crocoseum was headed up by Bindi Irwin’s husband, and two young women. This pale croc is called Casper, and ‘always brings 110%’. Must’ve been a slow day, because he shlumped around. Then again, this show must be a bit like a sushi train. If you don’t fancy the rats and chickens today, meh, because you’ll have another opportunity in a few days.

Even so, I cheered and yelled ‘Crikey!’ with the best of them.

Super C and I kept commenting on the ‘excellent bin chicken show’, whenever some wild ibis landed and poked around. “This is what I flew north to see,” I told him.

“I moved here for this!” he replied.

And I don’t care what species these snakes actually are. Miss J and I called them the Stacks On snakes.

By the end of the day, we were all chilly, and worn out, so home to dry couches, soft blankets, and down time on iPads.

I’m really happy to have had this day with my family, and to have made some new memories.

The Daily Blog experiment – a story from the vaults

Let me select at random a photo from the vaults, and give you a wee story. Some of you may have heard it before, but some not. Here we go.

The date on this says 2008, but it’s likely earlier than that. I’m still with XP, aka as the Ex Partner. A nurse friend of mine summed him up, after we’d split up, as ‘One episode away from a psychotic break’. Apt, in retrospect.

Anyway, let’s say this is around 2006. I’m 42. I’ve recently read about Extreme Ironing: the very odd ‘sport’ where people go to extreme places, and proceed to iron a nice white shirt.

I give you these random pics off the internet as examples:

You have no doubt noticed that I am not doing anything extreme in my photo. In 2006, studying Teaching English to Students of Other Languages (TESOL) was the only way I could imagine getting myself travelling anywhere. Get the Advanced Diploma and when my kids were old enough, take teaching positions for 3-6 months in various countries.

I didn’t own a travel iron. Why would I? No travel.

Even so, I had to get in on this, so I opted for Mild Ironing. I took my iron, and a small ironing board loaned from a friend and XP drove me to Black Rock beach. I tell you what, anyone who wanders along any beach with a surfboard under their arm – not a single stare. But let a short woman stroll along with a mini-ironing board, and there are double takes all over the place.

Plenty of whispers: “I thought she was holding a surfboard, but…it’s an ironing board…”

I got myself precariously out on some rocks, and it was my first experience of ‘styling’ my photo. I wanted to be close enough to the water that it looked vaguely beachy. With any luck, a spray of water would be caught in-frame.

There was nowhere to plug my iron in, of course, so I got to work cold ironing my summer pyjama pants. I wore a tshirt that I’d bought at a Jane Goodall event. If she could go live with the Gombo chimpanzees for years on end, I could pretend to iron pyjamas on Black Rock beach. Which is not even a surf beach.

On a side note, my friend was disappointed when I brought the ironing board back.

“I thought you were going to surf on it,” she said, peeved when I showed her the Mild Ironing pics. “I don’t it back. I don’t iron any more.”

I kept the ironing board another 5 years, just in case I became more daring and decided to iron up on Hanging Rock, or perhaps iron whilst jumping off Princes St Bridge during the Moomba Birdman Rally, but neither ever came about. I gave the ironing board and the iron to an op shop, and went on to do other nutty things, as well as eventually get to travel.

So there you have it. Not a ‘today this happened’ but a happy memory.

Let me know if you want more photo memories, and I’ll see what I can find in the vaults.

The Daily Blog experiment – travel lust

A quite day today, which has meant an opportunity to wrangle the ever-tall email mountain. You know the drill: delete some out of date shit; unsubscribe from 3 more newsletters; answer a few pertinent things; once again fail to update my writing records to show 2 poems rejected, 1 acceptance.

I do subscribe to the JourneyWoman newsletter, and they just posted a few of their 2025 trips. JourneyWoman are women-only travel. Group travel mostly, and I’m always leery of that because the itineraries can be brutal. “Get up, get on the bus(optional whip cracking noises), get off the bus, appreciate these rocks, stop appreciating them, visit the gift shop, get back on the bus.” That sort of thing. But JourneyWoman notes that most of their tours are ‘relaxed’. They posted Morocco, Southern America, and the autumn leaves in New England. All 3 on my bucket list.

There’s no harm in looking through the itineraries, and drooling, and thinking ‘yes to this, and no to bourbon tasting, and why would I want to make an inconvenient something I can’t get through Australian customs?’

Now, PizzaBoy and I have Egypt in our sights next year, and we are limited to one international trip per year….but. Oh look, there’s no buts, Satya. That’s how it is. One international trip until our circumstances change dramatically – like ThirtiesPerson housed; we’ve downsized; I stop spending money on crap.

We are hoping that Wyld Tribe run their Egypt trip, and we can both lob onto that. But in case they don’t, we are occasionally doing homework on who else we might travel with. I’m so set on doing this Egypt trip next year that my Noom(diet and health app) goal is to lose weight so I look fantastic in Egypt travel pics next year.

Goblin Brain is chanting ‘NewEnglandMoroccoNewOrleans’ in my head.

Random tourist pic from the Wyld Tribe ‘Return To Avalon 2023′ trip for interests’ sake.

The Daily Blog experiment – Wildlife poems

While I pottered around parts of England last year, I came across souvenir booklets of poems.

As part of The Mild Declutter, the wildlife booklet is going into my Little Street Library tonight, but I wanted to preserve a few favourites.

There. Now I’ll be able to come back to them. And this counts as yesterday ‘daily blog’ as I got busy with writing, tidying, and then going out in 36 degree C. heat to dance for several hours to The Boombabies. Thank goodness for good air conditioning.

The Daily Blog experiment – The Bucket List

As a back up to my saved document on my computer, this is my Bucket List, as of earlier this week, all typed up, and only one private thing redacted.

Bucket List 2024

  1. Otways – visit; do the Skywalk?
  2. Drive some of the Great Ocean Road as a multi-day trip.
  3. Whale watching Warrnanbool.
  4. Whale watching Hervey Bay.
  5. Visit Darwin.
  6. See the Grampians.
  7. Go back to Monkey Mia and do the volunteer dolphin feeding programme.
  8. See Watermelon Beach in South Australia.
  9. Do more African dance.
  10. Gluten free sourdough bread class.
  11. WAMED festival.
  12. Plant and grow and lemon tree.
  13. Tour Egypt.
  14. See the Northern lights.
  15. (redacted)
  16. Enter the Birdman Rally at Moomba.
  17. Buy a house.
  18. Tour New Zealand: glow worm caves, mud pools, zorbing.
  19. Abseil down a waterfall.
  20. Air boat across an alligator infested swamp.
  21. Dog sledding (again).
  22. Learn poi.
  23. Fire twirling.
  24. Eat fire.
  25. Indoor skydiving.
  26. Drive a tank.
  27. Paintball.
  28. Go on a luge.
  29. Conquer my fear of scuba diving.
  30. Bathe an elephant.
  31. Storm/tornado chasing.
  32. Walk on a volcano.
  33. Stay at the mini donkey place.
  34. Walk the 1000 steps in the Dandenongs.
  35. Hug a Redwood tree.
  36. Milk a cow.
  37. Name a star.
  38. Shear a sheep.
  39. Sleep in a yurt.
  40. Sleep in an igloo.
  41. Stay in the glass igloos in Scandinavia.
  42. Stay in an Ice Hotel.
  43. Go to mermaid school in the Phillipines.
  44. Falconry class.
  45. Karaoke duet.
  46. Glass blowing.
  47. Create a bumper sticker (?)
  48. Water colour painting lessons.
  49. Have my handwriting analysed.
  50. Make a calendar with my own photos.
  51. Try a mosaics class.
  52. Learn to sew, and make a dress for myself.
  53. Pottery (?)
  54. Learn calligraphy.
  55. See the Phillip Island penguins.
  56. Pan for gold.
  57. Sleep on a houseboat.
  58. Stay in a treehouse.
  59. Visit a glass beach.
  60. Drive some of Route 66.
  61. Visit the Alamo.
  62. Visit the 3 country cairn that intersects Sweden, Norway, and Finland.
  63. See the Appalachian Trail.
  64. Visit New Orleans.
  65. Yellowstone National Park.
  66. If there are still Australian lizard races, go see them. Place a bet.
  67. Go kayaking. DONE!
  68. Try Tai Chi.
  69. Try adult beginners ballet (again).
  70. Ride on an electric scooter.
  71. Learn to crochet.
  72. Have a snowboarding lesson.
  73. Have a ski lesson.
  74. Ride in a limo.
  75. Own a Stevie Nicks-style dress.
  76. Attend a Renaissance festival.
  77. Float in the Dead Sea.
  78. Stay in an underwater hotel.
  79. Wade into the Blue Lagoon or Sky Lagoon in Iceland.
  80. See Autumn in New England.
  81. Visit Jordan.
  82. Carribean (?)
  83. Swim with whales in Tonga.
  • Treat Melbourne as a tourism spot and jump on the Melbourne Explorer.
  • Blues train (?)
  • Puffing Billy special night.
  • Petra by night.
  • Belly dance masterclass in Cairo.
  • See the Midnight Sun in the Arctic.
  • Ireland – drive the Wild Atlantic way.
  • Explore the Fairy Tale route in Germany.
  • Cherry Blossom festival in Japan.
  • Florida Keys, Bermuda, see if I can get abducted by aliens in the Triangle.
  • Overwater bungalow in Polynesia.
  • Cook Islands.
  • Borneo to see orang utans.
  • Greece.
  • Morocco.
  • Turkey.
  • Iran.
  • Lasceaux cave paintings.
  • Trans Siberian Railway, and Russia.
  • Edinburgh Tattoo in Edinburgh.
  • Romania and Transylvania, and visit Vlad’s castle.
  • Nova Scotia, and Gander.
  • Italy and Amalfi coast.
  • Maldives (?)
  • See the Komodo dragons.
  • Rocky Mountaineer in Canada.
  • Giraffe Manor in Kenya.
  • Galapagos Islands.
  • See bioluminescence
  • Viking River cruise.
  • Danish Viking restaurant.
  • Orient Express.
  • Halong Bay.
  • Cambodia.
  • Silk Road tour.
  • Nepal, and flight over the Himalayas.
  • Catamaran cruise in the Seychelles (?)
  • Space Centre in Houston.
  • Train ride through Swiss Alps.
  • Learn to juggle.
  • Build a house with Habitat for Humanity.
  • Join a flash mob.
  • Learn underwater photography.
  • Sleepover Melbourne Zoo.
  • Visit the sky high toilets at the Sofitel in Melbourne.
  • A movie showing at the Astor theatre.
  • Adelphi Hotel swimming pool swim.
  • See the Aurora Australis (winter and equinox in September: Point Lonsdale, Cape Schanck, Flinders, Aireys Inlet, Anglesea)
  • Westgate Park – summer – pink lake
  • Tobogganing at Lake Mountain.
  • Walk the Tan.
  • Gelato at Pidapipo in Carlton.
  • Organ Pipes National Park.
  • Walk the Merri Creek trail.
  • Have bespoke jeans made at Dejour Jeans in Coburg.
  • Visit Old Melbourne Gaol.
  • Walk the Yarra Trail.
  • Go on the Sorrento ferry.
  • Visit the Royal Botanic Gardens observatory.
  • Visit Fraser Island.

Daily Blog Experiment – Bucket List

This afternoon, RedHatter and I convened at The Coffee Club, armed with Tombow pens, Quirky Cup Collective biros, notepaper, and brand new Bucket List journals from Officeworks. We were ready to imagine the crap out of our afternoon.

With the help of Google, we set off into the lands of “I’ve always wanted to” and “Hey, that’s a good idea.

Lunch was eaten, drinks drunk, and still we dreamed on.

Some Google-found bucket lists were…um…well, let’s say ho-hum. Grow a herb garden; do some colouring in; do a crossword; cook a meal – um yeah. We’re both over 60. Let’s presume we’ve done that stuff.

As for have a baby; get married; adopt a child; start a company; buy a house. Yeah, sure snap decision I’ll pop in my bucket list, for a day when I’ve nothing else to do. Besides, done it, done it, fostered a child, started numerous businesses. Have not yet bought a house. Nor, given my finances, am I likely to.

Anyway, we were at it for 3 hours and both of us came away with first drafts of lists. Mine…er…goes for 7 pages. I may need to curate it a bit. Some items can be incorporated into others. If I’m in Iceland, I can see volcanoes, the northern lights, and swim in the Blue Lagoon.

I may also have to start selling body part pics on OnlyFans to afford all these items. They do assume a certain level of wealth.

Some items cannot have dates put on them. Russia and the Trans Siberian Railway will have to wait until Putin isn’t being a maniac. Ditto a visit to Ukraine.

But there are plenty of other items to keep me busy, and I haven’t yet sat down with my husband PizzaBoy to see what shared visions I’ve missed.

Now, all I have to do is start filling in the book, and picking out my first items to tackle.

Learning to crochet is an easy one, I hope. And cheap. Unless the ADHD kicks in, and hello new hyperfixation….

Tales From the Tor – England Tour Day 11.5

Last time I Tor Travel blogged, I had just left the fairy dell of Trewethett Mill.

From there, we trundled off in Anarchy Annie, our little travel bus, all of us already warm, and getting warmer, as the day heated around us. One whole mile down the road and we pulled onto the side of the road and walked up, turning onto the path that lead us to the glen. I had my white Cancer Council hat on, and wished I didn’t. I was sweating into the hatband, and when I sweat hard, I get a peculiar ache around the external occipital protruberance, both sides, right where my neck joins. My scalp gets wringing wet, and I truly ache from how much sweat is pouring out of me. This is no Fine Victorian Lady’s ‘glow’. This is working class sweat. It makes me want to scratch my scalp off, but madly going at my head is considered unpleasant for all around, so I confined myself to occasional pokes at the area.

Off we went. Narcissia kept up a strong pace. She walked far ahead of the rest of us as we strung out along the dappled dirt path. Ferned and mossed embankments rose on both sides for some of the path, and others, the creek was visible. No breeze at all.

I took plenty of photos, even as my energy plummeted, and I trudged along, knowing if I threw a hissy fit and quit, I’d still have the long walk back to the bus, and then have to hang around without lunch or cold drinks until everyone came back. Besides, I had my swimming togs in my backpack, and I was going into that water. I’d already said out loud I was doing it. I couldn’t back out.

Onwards.

Sometimes small insects hung in the air, and a few times, we walked through clouds of what I presume were thrips. Suicidal ones buzzed at me and stuck to my wet face and body. I no longer cared. Like a blown horse, my head hung, and I flopped one foot in front of the other.

Steep steps at times, like knee high. Good thing I’d not missed leg day at the gym, although we’d started calling every day leg day on this trip.

Once again, the younger members of the group were keeping an eye on old duck me, to make sure I didn’t keel over, or trip going up a step. Thankyou.

The air was syrupy, and it was hard to smell water through it. I’d had the luxury of being out in the countryside for a few days now, so the smells of nature were no longer new to my city nose. The greens were vibrant around me, and everything was growing and glowing strongly in the summer sun and heat.

The group reformed at three fallen logs that were covered in coins inserted into the wood. Offerings for the fae folk, I was told. I did want to scratch my head then. Was it all metal the fairies didn’t like, or just iron? Tolkein’s elves liked a bit of head bling, at least in the movies. Oh right, offerings for the spirits of this place. What they wanted with stacks of old mouldy coins, I didn’t know. There were so many coins pressed into the logs that I wasn’t surprised when I was told by staff at the cafe later that the logs were replaced every now and then, to provide space for a whole new gang of coin shovers.

We all inserted coins into the logs, like the good tourists and spiritual people we were, and off we went again, slogging along towards the cafe. All I could think of was sitting down, drinking about 50 litres of cold something, and perhaps having a little stressed cry.

Finally, up the last few steep steps, slippery from nearby water, and into the cafe. I could do little but just sit. I shook, trembling all over, and my vision was blurry. MidWife bought me cold elderflower lemonade, and I downed as quickly as the fizz would let me. And honestly, my mind will never let me just enjoy something. It has to keep up a running commentary of utter bullshit. “If you drink now before you eat, it lessens the digestive juices you’ll have to dissolve your food. You already suffer from reflux sometimes. Why are you doing this?” Shut up brain, I needed the fluid before I could even contemplate food.

The sugar and cold did me good, enough so that I reduced my trembling to occasional leg quakes, my heart rate went down, and I stopped feeling sick. I ordered food, and while I waited, scoffed a packet of salt and vinegar crisps. Justification: I’d sweated out salt too.

Next to our table was a wooden wishing tree, where people had written their wishes onto flimsy cardboard leaves and attached them to the tree with ribbon. “Happy, healthy, strong, creative, wild Satya” I wrote.

I sat long enough that I recovered my equilibrium, and ceased sweating enough to drown a buffalo. Let’s hear it for fizzy water, sugar, salt, air con, and food.

The next stop was, of course, the gift shop, where there was jewellery aplenty, and useful blue hand towels for those who decided to dip in the water but hadn’t brought a towel. Brilliant. I bought one, because we had more sitting on damp surfaces ahead of us on other days.

Then, down the walkways to the waterfall and creek itself. St Nectan of Hartland supposedly was a monk who moved from Ireland to Wales. He spent some time in Trevethy as a hermit, and it’s believed he carved his cave above the waterfall some time in the 6th century. According to legend, he rang a bell in times of stormy weather to warn people of danger in Rocky Valley.

Rushing water sounds grew as I descended the stairs(yep, moar stairs). The the bottom was the shallow run off from the waterfall, which poured through a circular hole in late Devonian slate(according to the website; according to me, black). Part of the Trewillett River.

MidWife, DansGirl, and I changed into our swimming togs, much to the surprise of people sitting around the edges of the water spill. No changerooms. Undies off under our skirts, bottom half of bathers on. Take arms out of sleeves, remove bras. Haul up bathers as best we can. Take off clothes. Ta dah – 3 women over 40 in their togs, ready to go wading. I noticed a few people with young children up and left.

The shallows tumble over many, many pebbles and stones, and plenty of loose shale. Which made stepping into the freezing water barefoot a challenge. MidWife and I hobbled our way through the water. My feet ached, stinging, and then going numb. Sometimes I couldn’t feel rocks under my feet, but certainly my instep sensed the hard shape of them.

Nearer the waterfall, the shale deepened and our steps were more unsteady, but we blundered on. We were going to get under that water, no matter what. The rest of the women on the tour, and a few onlookers(who may or may not have been stunned at our little white bodies) watched as we edged closer. MidWife held my hands as I dipped my shoulders under the cascade, and screamed from the cold, then emerged. We posed for photos, and then DansGirl waded out and MidWife held her hands as she leaned all the way back and stuck her head under.

Phones were out, and cameras. We were BRAVE women, or CRAZY, or something.

Oh, that freezing water was agony, and so welcome after that very long hot walk. And I’d done what I’d said I’d do – get under the waterfall. I was pleased with myself.

After a bit more wading, we gathered to far side of the creek, and did a meditation. I drifted in and out of focussing, as I took in the sounds, smells, and even the taste of the water on my lips.

In the middle of the water were a number of stone cairns, built by those who wanted to say “I was here” without graffiti. I’ve learned that, quite often, minute creatures live under the stones picked up to build a cairn, and it’s better to leave them where they are. But people want to leave something to say ‘was here’.

Clouties, or cluties, are ribbons or strings attached to trees and bushes at sacred sites, with a wish whispered into them. I’ve seen strips of lace, calico, cotton, thread, satin ribbon, silk, and once, even a baby shoe tied to a tree. However, many of these take a very long time to decay, and some not at all, and are not natural to the environment. So, raffia has become popular. Raffia fibre comes from raffia palms and will at least decay. Most raffia is dyed, so…questionable? Anyway, we each had a strip of raffia to tie to a tree or bush. Most of the cluties were tied to the bush nearest the steps, so I went a little further afield.

“Oh honey,” I said to a thin, unclutied bush, “let me tie this to you loosely, because I dig that you don’t like restriction any more than I do. Who needs lacing and corsets, right?”

And I left my strip of yellow raffia behind with a wish that mirrored the one I made upstairs on the wishing tree. Why do multiple wishes when one will do? Everything I want can stem from those thoughts. If I’m strong, healthy, have stamina, a good outlook, then the writing, the travel, the dance, and everything else will flow.

After walking back our bus, we got underway to Bath, which would be our home for the next 7 nights.

Tales From The Tor – England Tour Day 11

Breakfast in the King Arthur Arms pub. Good to know King Arthur did something in his spare time – opened a pub in his home town. Other than the name, and a set of shiny medieval armour(how did Dark Ages Arthur get his hands on it?), it was a bog-standard English pub. Lots of dark wood, small windows, and standard breakfast fare. There’s not a lot of gluten free options in most pubs, but I made do. At least I wasn’t having to exist on eggs every darned day, a fact that everyone in bus must have been thankful for. No cracks about ‘oh gods, farty Satya is here’. At least, none that I heard.

We piled our luggage into the bus, and Narcissia played Tetris with getting it all in. Then we were off a whole two miles down the road. We walked about a kilometre along a sometimes slippery pathway to the ruins of Trewethett Mill. The ruins are overgrown with moss and flora and it’s a gloriously fae place. It had rained the night before, so underfoot was muddy, but we still managed to conjure up enough rain jackets and plastic ponchos to sit on in a rough circle and do a meditation. As we sat, we all felt our hair being played with, and tiny gentle tweaks to our faces, arms, and legs. Midges? Maybe. I like to think the fae were with us, and playing. I’ve had the experience before in various circles. In one particular circle, the facilitator said it was like watching people with physical tics. We were all smoothing back our hair, rubbing or scratching at various vague itches, or smacking at ourselves to fend off invisible mosquitoes.

Of course, a few people have carved their names into rock walls, and there’s the inevitable Fred Loves Evie business, but mostly, people have left offerings rather than desecrated the site.

The mill was used to manufacture woollen textiles. It nestles in a valley carved by the Trevillet River, and we heard it rushing past off to the side of us.

After the meditation, we were free to wander around, take photos, experience the place. Two small labyrinths are carved into the rock face – one modern, one ancient, and we were invited to trace both with our fingers. I did so. At first, all I thought about was my aching hips as I crouched, but I told myself to drop out of physicality. I dropped into a more liminal space where there was nothing but my right forefinger(Jupiter finger in palmistry) and the slightly rough surface of the rock as I followed the grooves of the labyrinth. I got no more out of it than that, and didn’t know if I was tracing out the modern or ancient one. But that was enough, that small opportunity to go beyond ‘this aches, that aches, why am I so fat, I hope I don’t fall over, am I doing this right’.

The ruins were soft, covered in moss, fern fronds, and some places were so squishy underfoot that I didn’t go into them.

Beyond the mill was the river, and the water beautifully clear and cold. I wondered to MidWife if it was like the river in Scotland where, if you dipped your face in the water, you were blessed with eternal beauty. We did it in Scotland, and I decided to do it here, but instead of dipping right down, because there wasn’t really a place to do it, I splashed the water on myself, and it was welcome after the closeness of the meditation space, and heat of the morning.

I’m thankful I was with a group who didn’t feel the need for constant chatter, and screaming ‘look at me’ photos. Oh don’t get me wrong, we did a bit of that, too, but not everywhere, and we had the sense to know when places were special.

The sunlight was dappled, and much of the place shaded, which I liked. Cheers to all redheads who can burn on a winter’s day.

From here, we walked back to the bus, uphill of course, because isn’t everything in England up a hill, or up stairs, and trundled off to St Nectan’s Glen. The day warmed up, and so did I.

My next post will be my St Nectan’s Glen experience. Photos will be added to posts soon, I promise.

Tales From The Tor – England travel blog Day 10

Today, I just couldn’t. No matter how much I wanted to see local sites, and St Michael’s Mount, I needed another day out. We can talk all we like to Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, to autism, to ADHD, to postmenopause. Whatever we like. It’s me. I need time alone to reset, rest, indulge how ever I want without anyone else’s time table.

After the group left, I read a little, and did what I thought was a favour to everyone. I took our big bags of shared laundry to the local laundrette. I gave the laundry lady my unscented washing sheets. When I returned later in the afternoon, she’d washed and dried everything with the heaviest scented whatevers in the world. Seriously lady, how are you not dead? I hung everything up in our lounge area, and rotated putting stuff on the outside stairs bannister to air. Holy crap, but that shit was strong.

(I made sure I wore all that laundered stuff first, so I could wash it again quickly and not have the scent infest my suitcase.)

I spent my day pottering around Tintagel. In and out of shops, down side streets. I met the Queen of Tintagel. A local black cat who is owned and cared for by a family, but considers the whole high street, every house, and all shops to be hers. Cars stop for her as she crosses roads. I fully expected drivers to leap out and throw down a cape for her. I met her first on the footpath, and a little later in a shop. She strolled in to roll all over the floor and rest in a patch of sunshine. Later, she was in another shop. She owns Tintagel in a way Igraine never did, and Morgaine didn’t want.

In the mid afternoon I took myself up to Camelot Castle, a hotel that heavily features the art of Ted Stourton on the walls, and in coffee table books. I got some pics of the ruins of Tintagel from the side of Camelot and some fine view of the Atlantic Ocean. I took afternoon tea in the dining room. People, it pays to be nice, and chat to waitresses and waiters, and ask them about themselves, and how they came to be working where they are. I got the nicest alcove in the place, an extra biscuit with my tea, and all the dining room coffee table books were placed on my table. Not a work said when I took photos of various pages. I even got recommendations of the best places to sit outside to watch the ocean. All of which I took advantage of, and my lovely waitress, Mairie, enjoyed seeing my Australian change purse and the ‘exotic’ coins. I gave her a five cent piece which she said she was going to turn into a small pendant. Little things go a long way.

My day in Tintagel was full of fun. I tried on felt hats, held dresses up against myself, had a lovely chat with the waitress in the tea rooms, and generally pottered about. I even got time to make some brief travel notes, and read a bit more of TO SIR PHILLIP, WITH LOVE. I’m not much of a one for Regency romances, but I have watched the first two seasons of BRIDGERTON, and Eloise and Penelope are my two favourite characters. So I read those two books.

When the group got back in the evening, I joined them in the pub downstairs for dinner and heard about their day. I had some Regret of Missing Out, but on the whole, I was content with my own day.

That Atlantic Ocean is incredibly blue in a way the Pacific isn’t. As for the Great Southern Ocean and Bass Strait – I refuse to qualify their murky depths.

(Gossip: upon approaching Camelot Castle, there were two young people trying to selfie with some flag or other, so I offered to help them out. Honestly, young people, take some interesting pics. I made them jump in the air with the flag, and that made a much better pic than the static one they wanted. Camelot Castle in the background, and their bright yellow peace bus to the side. They told me they swam through Merlin’s Cave at high tide. I was impressed. Later, I talked to a woman who said that the assistants who stand at various points around the Tintagel site were put on high alert when they’d seen the couple go down to the caves, and not come up again and the tide came in. The local rescue team were alerted and about to be deployed when the couple reappeared. They said they had a right to experience the caves in an authentic way. Dickheads. Upon reflection, I don’t know how they’re supporting themselves as they travel the world in their yellow peace bus, but it’s an endless tour, and somehow peace will come to the world as they take Instagram pics of their peace flag in various locations. I roll my eyes at this. I think of myself working three jobs and paying taxes, and get off my lawn.)